Success Lessons From Soccer - How To Win or Lose In The Game Of Life

Soccer matches are all about scoring goals and beinghimself in a big way. A key factor in his success in
winners. As a result, soccer can hold up a mirror toEngland is his self-belief and a rich Russian backer
life since many humans also want to achieve goalswho allows him to buy the best players in Europe.
and to be winners in the game of life. There is muchYou can safely bet money that Chelsea will win
to be learned about life in general from socceralmost all their matches.
players, managers and commentators.The odds are not great but you could put £100
When you listen to commentators on socceron Chelsea to win and make an easy £26 from
matches, the key words they use again and againyour bet. Of course, this does not always work out.
when teams are winning are words about characterNo team is perfect!
and attitude like belief, excitement, confidence, effortMourinho is passionate about soccer but retains his
and so on. Soccer skills and strategies are importantsense of perspective and humour. Recently he was
but mean little without the right attitude.asked in London if he was concerned about losing
Team managers urge their players to show focus,the championship to his main rivals, Manchester
determination and maximum effort. They tell themUnited. His reply was typical of him:
they should expect to win and not to show too"No, I'm more concerned about bird 'flu." The
much respect for their opponents no matter howassembled press started laughing.
famous they are."Seriously; it's that swan in Scotland that concerns
I love listening to the comments of the great soccerme. It's not that far from here!" (The swan was the
managers. They have all been to hell and back. Theyfirst creature with bird 'flu in the UK in 2006)
are praised and popular when their teams win. TheyOver the last few weeks, his team, Chelsea, have
are criticised and even sacked when their teams failbeen criticised for having players sent off for
to win. They know the heights of elation and thebreaking the rules. When Jose was asked about his
depths of despair. They have to find ways to dealsuccess away from home against West Brom, he
with both and to keep motivating their teams to win.commented ironically:
Gordon Strachan took over as manager of Celtic,"Maybe we won because we played with ten men.
one of the top two clubs in Scotland, in 2005. It wasThat is our best tactic at the moment."
not long before he experienced "the worst night ofHowever, he realises that the main reason Chelsea
my life"win so often is as follows:"We have top players and,
Bratislava beat Celtic 5-0 in the Champions league,sorry if I'm arrogant, we have a top manager."
the top European competition. His watch stoppedPublic confidence is so rare in the UK that it is often
after the match and he still wears it to remind himselfmistaken for arrogance.
that it was the worst night of his life. Celtic, the prideJose does not believe in having favourites; he
of Scotland, had been humiliated by a less famousbelieves in the power of the team rather than the
team.individual:
Other failures seemed small to him by comparison."I don't want special relations with one of them (his
We can all learn to deal with difficult situations byplayers). I hate to speak about individuals. Players
reminding ourselves of worst situations in our past ordon't win you trophies, teams win trophies, squads
by imagining how much worse our lives could be thanwin trophies."
they actually are.Another great manager is Harry Redknapp of
None of us knows for sure what will happen to usPortsmouth. He commented about his players in a
tomorrow. We could be seriously ill or even dead.match with Burnley which ended in a 2-2 draw:
Gordon has faced this possibility already. He told the"When the crowd was on their backs no one wanted
media that on his gravestone he would like theseto try anything in case they got booed. They were
words carved:defensive and wanted to avoid mistakes."
"This is better than that night in Bratislava."Harry understands human psychology. If we are too
He uses the humour of exaggeration to deal with theworried about appearing foolish or making mistakes
criticisms of the media when things go wrong. Awe will fail to make things happen and we will not
reporter commented when his team lost a match inmake full use of our abilities. We go into our shells
Scotland:and play safe.
"Bang, there goes your unbeaten run. Can you takeI remember feeling like this when I played cricket at
it? "school. I tried to avoid being anywhere near the ball
"No," said Strachan. "I'm just going to crumble like ain case I dropped a catch. It was many years before
wreck. I'll go home,become an alcoholic and maybeI realised that I was quite good at catching!
jump off a bridge. Hmmm….I think I cantakeA commentator remarked: "Harry knows how to get
it, yeah."his teams going and how to restore their confidence.
He knows the importance of positive thinking if youNow they expect to win at Fratton Park (the
wish to achieve success.Portsmouth ground). They firmly believe they will
One reporter foolishly asked: "There's no negativewin." Recently they have won three games in a row
vibes or negative feelings here?"and are on their way to escaping relegation to a
Strachan replied: "Apart from yourself, we're all quitelower division.
positive round here.Another manager, Stuart Pierce, of Manchester City
I'm going to whack you over the head with a bigalso knows the importance of confidence: "We need
stick; down negative man,down."to go out and really believe we can play a bit."
Strachan often speaks with disarming honesty andWhat key success lessons can we learn from the
schoolboy cheek. He is ready to admit that he andabove?
his players are not always at their best. He is readySkill is important but attitude is even more important.
to face reality. Facing up to reality is a keyWe should expect to win and not show too much
characteristic of the successful.respect for the obstacles in our path whether they
When he managed a team in England, a reporterare human or otherwise and whether they are real or
asked him: "So, Gordon, in what areas do you thinkimaginary. We need to believe in our own ability and
Middlesbrough were better than you today?"expect to win even if this makes us seem arrogant.
Strachan replied: "What areas? Mainly that big greenWe should handle failures by reminding ourselves that
one out there...."things could be much worse. Retaining our sense of
Strachan has had his defeats but recently he has ledhumour also helps. Teamwork is a key factor in many
his latest team, Celtic, to undisputed victory in thetypes of achievement. We should not be worried
Scottish Premier League. He is widely accepted as aabout making mistakes whether we are playing
great manager.soccer or cricket or the game of life.
Another great manager now works in the EnglishWe need to face up to reality and be willing to be
Premier League. He is Jose Mourihno, the manager ofjudged by the results we achieve as well as the
Chelsea. He came to England in June 2004 and sooneffort we put in. On the whole, I think, that the
showed his confidence in himself and his players. Heeffort we expend is more important. We cannot
wants only to be judged by the results. A goodalways control the results but we can control the
manager wins. A bad one loses:effort we put in. The same manager can lose with
"I'm not a defender of old or new football managers.one team and win with another. He is still the same
I believe in good ones and bad ones; those thatperson and he still made the same efforts.
achieve success and those that don't. Please don't callI'll leave you with a final quote from Gordon Strachan
me arrogant, but I'm European champion and I thinkwho has been both a winning and a losing manager:
I'm a special one"A reporter asked: "Gordon, can we have a quick
He soon proved himself to be a 'special one' inword?"
England as well as in Portugal, his native country. As"Velocity", replied Gordon as he walked off.
the name 'the special one' suggests he believes in