Organizing Lessons for Back to School

As a mother of five grown children (and soon to beremember. No child ever suffered seriously from
grandmother!), I can attest to the fact thatmissing lunch for one day! Send positive messages
organizing skills are a major factor in the success ofthat encourage them to remember by including a
our children in school and the quality of our life atlove note in a lunch box with messages - "Good luck
home. The ease with which we manage every areaon your math test!"
of our lives - from getting ready to go to school inOne of the ongoing hassles of school days -
the morning to going to bed at night - can beregardless of the children's age - are those papers
significantly improved if we approach the tasks to bethat need signing by Mom or Dad (and frequently
done in an organized manner. Unfortunately, we wererequire checks!). Identify a specific place for only
not all born with an innate organizing ability, and morethose items. A clearly labeled magnetic pocket on the
unfortunately, there are few opportunities to learnrefrigerator door is a great option. Keep some "Sign
the skill. But it's never too late - or too early - toHere" Post- it? Flags nearby to help spark your
begin learning!memory or encourage your children to flag the
Begin by having each child in your family choose "theirdocuments to show you where to sign.
color," and use it consistently. It will save lots ofCompleting homework is every parent's primary
squabbles over whose notebook or umbrella isconcern. The first challenge is helping them to get
whose. Attach a pen with the ink color of each childtheir assignments home. Help them find an
nearby the family calendar (which should have lots ofassignment book that is easy to use. Each evening
writing space!) We had four children playing soccer atgo over assignments with your child to see that
the same time, but "soccer" written in red ink toldhomework is complete! Creating a productive study
me it was Jenny who needed a ride. Encourage yourenvironment is crucial, keeping in mind that everyone
children to be responsible for their own schedules anddoes not need the same environment to be
commitments. Start by teaching your child to use ansuccessful. Some children work best alone in a quiet
alarm clock and expecting them to use it.room, while others do better sitting at the kitchen
Does your child have trouble deciding what to weartable while Mom or Dad fixes dinner. Since computers
in the morning? Part of the problem may be toohave become a major factor in homework, develop
many choices. Eliminate anything from the closet thatfamily policies about who can use the computer
doesn't currently fit, is not in season or in style. Then,when. Keep supplies and resources on hand to
spend some time with your child planning wardrobeeliminate unnecessary last minute shopping trips.
combinations and list them on a sign on the closetOf course you couldn't expect me to write an article
door for a quick morning reminder. Last minuteon "back to school" without mentioning a filing
hassles over lost shoes? Identify a specific place forsystem. Since research shows that the average
shoes - preferably near the front door! Children learnperson spends over one month each year looking for
by example - how are you doing in that department?lost information, it's never to early to start teaching
If your children pack their own lunches for school,kids how to file! (Bonus: If you use Taming the Paper
work out a system that suits each child. My daughterTiger software, you can "hire" your child to help you
preferred to pack hers the night before, but my sonwith your filing!)
- never more than ten minutes before the busFinally, notes of all varieties can be a wonderful way
arrived! To eliminate Johnny taking Mary's lunch, useto communicate to your children - with one caveat.
different colored containers or labels for each child.Years ago, I overheard my son say to my daughter
Create a standard shopping list of lunchbox itemsone morning, "I wonder what I have to do today,
each child likes and make sure to keep those itemsthere's one of those yellow things on the mirror." I
on hand. Put a list on the refrigerator with any specialsuddenly realized that it was important to give
items that are available (e.g., leftover steak frompositive messages as well as parental reminders.
dinner last night). By the way, if Sara forgets herWaking up to, "You did a great job cleaning up the
lunch and you drop what you're doing to deliver it,kitchen last night," is a great start to good day at
you're giving a message that she doesn't have toschool!