Building Your Deaf Child's Self-Confidence

It is important to build your child's self-confidence,he has to change schools it will delay his graduation.
and this applies to all children. One of the easiestBrian had experience with other university students
ways to build your child's self-confidence is to supportand even his own experience coming from abroad.
his or her passion. For example if your child lovesHe told Larry that he shared the same passion for
soccer, music, swimming, gymnastics or anothersoccer, but your education is important and nobody
activity, use this activity to build their confidence.can take that away from you. For example, if you
We will like to share our experience with our Deafhave an injury in sports it can affect you playing
son Larry. Larry loved sports from a toddler; heprofessionally. Brian said he wished he had paid more
would sit or lie down in front of the TV and justattention to his education.
watch sports, all sports. Larry was a very activeHe came to school in the states from Ireland and his
toddler, so we noticed what kept him interested forfirst priority was playing division I soccer and
an extended period. While Larry attended Kendalleventually pro. He told Larry that he had no one to
Demonstration Elementary School on Gallaudetadvise him because his parents were in Ireland. He
University campus he played basketball and somecame to the USA on his own. As parents we want
soccer. But Larry always had surplus energy.to be there for our kids as much as possible. The
When we moved to Massachusetts, Larry was 10amazing thing is whatever your child's passion, in
years old. Larry started playing soccer; formally Iaddition to listening to you, they would listen to the
should say, in the town league. Just about that timecoach or that leader. And sometimes they even listen
Larry started reading soccer magazines for childrento them more or are more receptive to what they
around his age. Which also helped in improving hisare saying. Because they think you as a parent is
reading skills. So one day Larry put Raz and I to sitpreaching to them. The coach is like another ally, so
down and he outlined his plan for his future withthat is a good thing.
soccer. He wanted to play soccer for the MarlboroAs parents we all want confident children! When you
town league, the Massachusetts club level, thebuild your son or daughter's self-confidence as a child,
Olympics and World Cup Soccer internationally.it pays off when they become a teenager. It will help
Raz and I said, yes we will support him, even thoughthem with peer pressure, with school and with their
we did not know how he was going to do all this. Sogoals. When you build your son and daughter's
Larry led and we supported. Larry achieved all hisself-confidence as a teenager, it pays off when they
soccer goals except playing at the World Cup Soccerbecome adults. When they are in university by
level. Larry played at the highest club level inthemselves or when they have moved out. This will
Massachusetts for one of the most elite clubs, atcarry through with them the rest of their lives. So
California State University in Northridge and the USA'swe invite you today to focus on building your child's
Men's Deaf Soccer Olympic Team. You can read ourself-confidence by supporting their passion! Usually
story for complete details on how Larry accomplishedchildren have more than one passion. Larry's second
his goals.passion was social studies and geography, which was
Larry's experience with soccer built hiscompletely different from soccer. That was his
self-confidence tremendously. It was something weundergrad major. That helped him with his reading
never dreamed about. We just saw his confidenceand communication skills. This is a gift you can give
grow and explode. Which made him a really strongyour child that will be with them forever. Nobody can
person. This really helped with peer pressure. Larrytake their self confidence away from them. It is
saved his allowance to purchase his favoritenever too late to start!
professional soccer teams jerseys and he wore themWe talk about Larry's self confidence and his passion
frequently to school. He was serious about soccer,in sports and soccer. But I want parents and people
his health, and eating right, that is, salads, fruits andto know that it did not only come out on the soccer
drinking water. So he did not get involved in suchfield, with this coach and the players. It came out in
activities as smoking cigarettes in High School, which Iall areas of his life. When he was choosing a school
think was such a big plus for us. It really was ahe was confident enough to say I want to go to this
blessing in disguise.school all the way on the west coast in California. He
While playing soccer at the club level, Larry wasdid his masters, he traveled, he played soccer
fortunate to have a coach that valued Larry'sabroad, he founded I think 3-4 groups and he is on
passion, skills, enthusiasm, and dedication to the gamethe Board of Directors at Deaf Inc. He is involved in
and deafness was not an issue. Larry was playingInternational Committees for the Deaf. So you know
soccer at the highest club level for the elite Bostonhe is a leader in the Deaf community. We saw the
Eagles Club. Larry loved and respected this coach. Heconfidence on the soccer field and his love for
valued the coach's advice on non-sports topics suchsoccer, but now it just blossomed in all different
as education. The coach advised him that educationareas of his life. And that is what you have to look
came first and soccer second.at, the benefits to your children. All this advice is for
I remember Brian said to us to allow him to gochildren in general. The only additional thing you need
wherever he wanted to go to school. The reasonto do if you have a Deaf child is to be able to
being if he changed his major and he loved thecommunicate with them. And that is by learning ASL,
school he will stay there and continue his education. IfAmerican Sign Language.