Appreciative Coaching - The Power of Positive Self Talk

One of the biggest challenges that young soccerThe first thing you can do is provide the player a set
players face is the issue of inner dialogue or self talk.of easily remembered words to use as they tried to
By this I mean the inner narrative that goes throughmake sense of the very fluid game. Phrases like "we
players had unconsciously or somewhat consciouslyclear the ball wide and up the side", repeated often in
as the game unfolds in front of them. A lot of thingspractice and during games and during
go into what a player here since I better head.question-and-answer sessions make it easy for the
Depending on their background and upbringing andplayer to remember what to do in that tactical
culture and the nature of your coaching, they cansituation. Consistency, repetition and memorable
hear very different things going on and this will havephrases give your players the tools they need to
an important impact on how they play the game andshape their own internal dialogue.
how they experience the game as they continue toThe next important thing you can do is to set the
develop.tone for how to approach the results of their
If your coaching style is aggressive and judgmentalefforts. Remember that the game of soccer is so
and directed towards the person, it would not bedynamic and volatile that our plans rarely come off
surprising for the player self talk to also bewithout a hitch. We should expect the ball to take
aggressive and judgmental. This can create feelingsfunny bounces and for other players to make
of intimidation and pressure on the field. This wouldsurprising plays. Our mindset should be one of
make it difficult for the player to relax and enjoy thepositive initiative, trying to do the best we can and
game and to be in the kind of creative mood that isthen accepting the results, and moving onto the next
ideal for expressing themselves on the field.play without being judgmental. In this way we have
We can affect the self talk in a couple of importantan opportunity to help our players seize the moment
ways. I consider to be one of the most importantand enjoy the beautiful game.
coaching obligations especially with younger players toSelf talk is an important part of the young players
help them develop the inner resources that enableemotional resilience and personal development. It's a
them to deal with the pressures of the game andpsychological part of the game that coaches should
their life.pay special attention to.