| Many people get really anxious when
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| | about how good they will feel when they
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| studying for the exams such as the PMP
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| | pass the PMP exam. And how good it will
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| (Project Management Professional) or CAPM
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| | feel, pinning on the little gold badge.
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| (Certified Associate in Project
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| | Tell them to imagine how wonderful and
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| Management) and so their anxiety works
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| | proud they will feel the first day they
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| against them. The reason that they are
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| | step back into their place of work as a
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| anxious is largely because of their fear
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| | PMP, to give the good news to their boss.
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| of failure. We could say that their
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| | Tell them to imagine that they're being
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| belief in the likelihood of their failure
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| | interviewed in the future by a reporter
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| is stronger that their belief in their
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| | from a big magazine, because the magazine
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| success. In order to find a way out of
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| | wants to print a feature article on their
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| this mess, it helps to know a little of
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| | successes.
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| how the mind works.
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| | Tell them to imagine how good it feels to
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| Everybody wants to be successful. Of
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| | be so successful in life.
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| course it could be argued that some
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| | Once they believe that, it will start to
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| people obviously want to fail in life -
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| | happen.
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| but that means that they want to be
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| | Your energy ends where you have your
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| successful in failing. And so when they
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| | focus
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| eventually DO fail, they succeeded in
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| | Now, coming back to this statement. It
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| achieving their life's main goal. And
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| | sounds "New age", but it's not. A long
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| that's a level of success that few of us
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| | time ago I practiced karate for a while.
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| achieve.
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| | This is a very relaxing sport, which
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| When aiming for a goal, it is very
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| | seems to be largely concerned with
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| important to concentrate on the
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| | smashing things. I was trying to break
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| successful outcomes of your task, rather
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| | wooden planks, but with no success.
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| than on the goal itself. For example, if
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| | My understanding of the "formula" was:
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| you are studying for the PMP exam, you
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| | Strength + technique + tough hands =
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| should focus on what you intend to do
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| | (whatever you like/don't like) smashed to
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| once you have your certification, rather
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| | bits.
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| than just on having letters after your
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| | I had the strength and the tough hands;
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| name. You should concentrate on the
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| | in fact I could hit the plank repeatedly
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| benefits after the goal is achieved,
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| | without hurting myself too much, and the
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| because your energy ends where you have
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| | technique appeared to be right too.
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| your focus (I'll come back to this
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| | But then, as a result of some research, I
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| later).
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| | started really believing that I could
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| For example, suppose you are playing
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| | break the plank.
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| soccer and you have to take a penalty
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| | So now my formula became:
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| kick.
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| | Strength + belief + technique + tough
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| If you concentrate really hard on taking
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| | hands = (whatever you like/don't like)
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| the kick, you will become anxious and may
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| | smashed to bits.
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| kick the ball badly.
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| | So I focused and my mental and physical
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| The trick is to imagine that you have
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| | energy on a single point on the plank
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| just scored the winning goal. Imagine the
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| | (and pictured it breaking) then hit it
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| crowd cheering -- actually hear them in
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| | really hard. But I still couldn't break
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| your mind -- and hear them calling your
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| | it.
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| name. Imagine how good the success feels,
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| | Then some time later I met a really sweet
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| and how proud of yourself you feel.
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| | girl, who had an incredible knack for
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| Imagine the other soccer players running
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| | smashing things, let me into her secret.
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| up to you and hugging you and
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| | She said, "Your problem is that you are
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| congratulating you.
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| | focusing on the plank, but that's were
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| If you do this, then you will relax and
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| | your energy ENDS, because your energy
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| actually score the goal.
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| | ends where you have your focus. If you
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| Because if you can truly make your mind
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| | want to break the plank, you have to
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| believe that you can truly make something
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| | focus on a spot 6 inches BEHIND the
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| happen, then your mind will do all that
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| | plank."
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| it can to make it happen (this is
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| | So once my focus (or goal) was to reach a
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| explained by "expectancy theory").
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| | spot behind the plank, my energy ended 6
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| So if you say to someone "study hard, and
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| | inches behind the plank, rather than on
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| try hard to pass the exam," that is a
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| | it's surface. I would like to say that I
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| waste of time because they are already
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| | was able to smash the plank on my very
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| doing that, and concentrating more on the
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| | next attempt. That was not the case,
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| problems will make them anxious and doubt
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| | because I was still training my mind to
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| their abilities.
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| | accept the new focus. But only a few days
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| It is much better to get them to focus
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| | later I was able to smash it.
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| beyond the end result. Tell them to think
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